Well, well, well! It seems that our long national nightmare is
finally over just getting started! This post is going to be a bit of processing for me, so if you’d rather protect yourself from even more discussion on the election results (that’s a form of self-care and I’m here for it!) or if you want to bookmark this for later and come back when you’re ready, do what you need to do. If somehow you got lost on the way here and it bothers or offends you that I’m devastated by the reality of a President Trump and won’t just “get over it” then this is really not the place for you (and probably never was).
Okay. That disclaimer taken care of, let’s get to some links! I promise I’ll try to make at least half of these uplifting, because I think we all need a little light in our lives right now, no matter where you fall on the political spectrum.
- I feel really honored to be included in this list of 100 Millennial Bloggers of Color. Thanks, guys!
- “I’m Not Pretty & I’m Fine With That.”
- Always check your sources, folks.
- How to achieve brand consistency online.
- Loved this post from Rosie.
- Why are custom websites so expensive?
- Aaron Sorkin’s letter to his daughter, the day after the election: “For the next four years, the President of the United States, the same office held by Washington and Jefferson, Lincoln and Teddy Roosevelt, F.D.R., J.F.K. and Barack Obama, will be held by a man-boy who’ll spend his hours exacting Twitter vengeance against all who criticize him (and those numbers will be legion). We’ve embarrassed ourselves in front of our children and the world.” I have many, many problems with Aaron Sorkin, but he’s not wrong.
- “What’s it like to live in a country that doesn’t trust you and doesn’t want you unless you win an Olympic gold medal or a national baking competition?” This is actually not about the election, believe it or not.
- Soul Asylum’s Runaway Train came on while I was in a restaurant last week and I’ve been listening to it on repeat ever since. I remember the video so clearly so I went looking for some information on the people featured. Here you go: The Lost Children of Runaway Train.
- “Young creatives are using social media to shape the culture we consume. But what happens when they don’t own their work?“
- I’ve never bothered to have an opinion about Jodi Picoult, but I might pick this up.
- How Hollywood whitewashed the Old West.
- The real cost of the loss of Apple’s headphone jack.
- Say it again for the folks in the back!
- The ultimate exit interview.
- For Minority And Women Elites, This Is An Utter Repudiation:
For you, minority attorney gunning to make partner. For you, female analyst. For you, openly gay resident. Your professional futures now exist by their grace. Maybe they’ll still care, and maybe they won’t, but there’s not going to be anything you can do to force them to respect you. Not when the courts will soon be stacked against you. Not when the civil rights division is gutted. Not when the economy tanks and the very white people who just voted in our next recession come looking for someone to blame.
The Best of the Rest
- I stupidly (I know!) got into a bit of a Twitter scuffle with someone who I had followed for years after they attempted to insinuate that black voters share some of the blame for the election results. I should have just taken
a breathanother sip of wine, rolled my eyes, and sent her this.
- Readers, this is the thing that made me really, really cry.
- Can we get a slow clap for Stan Van Gundy? ALSO. Headline writers of the world: You’re going to need to get a fucking grip. I saw too many articles about Gundy’s words with headings like “rant” and “tirade”. The man is speaking calmly. He’s being articulate. He is not ranting. (Just like Michelle Obama was never “angry”.) Don’t be such assholes.
- Today in “privileged men face actual consequences for being the worst”: Harvard Cancels Men’s Soccer Season Over ‘Scouting Report’ Assessing Female Soccer Players’ Hotness.
- The best places in the world to eat.
- “When you don’t know the words to American Honey.”
- An interview with the only woman Elon Musk follows on Twitter.
- How a little-known black pioneer changed fashion forever.
- “Doing the wrong thing is, for most of us, pretty mundane. It’s not usurping political power or stealing millions of dollars. It’s nervously joining in the chorus of laughs for your co-worker’s bigoted joke or lying about your politics to appease your family at Thanksgiving dinner.“
- FEEL GOOD STORY ALERT!
- Christmas is coming! I love the spirit of this company, founded by an old classmate of mine.
- This was a horrible, no good, very bad idea from the start!
- Tuesday wasn’t ALL bad. We had some great wins.
Make a Difference
- 9 real, actionable things we can do about Trump.
- A List of Pro-Women, Pro-Immigrant, Pro-Earth, Anti-Bigotry Organizations That Need Your Support.
I’ll close with this: It would be a kindness to allow people to grieve. I’m happy for you if you can see the silver lining or feel that this will be ok or aren’t afraid but know that that perspective comes from a place of privilege. I’m glad for you if you still feel safe and aren’t now worrying even more for the safety of your family and friends. If your first or second or third reaction was to tell people not to be afraid, please know that your reality was not rocked in the same way that it was for many who may now lose their rights, their spouses, their livelihoods, or their lives. It’s ok for it to not be ok for folks right now (or ever). Comfort is not comforting if it’s inflicted. And it’s really not your place to minimize the pain that many, many people are experiencing right now. If you can look past the dangerous and racist rhetoric that catapulted Trump to the White House, then bully for you. That doesn’t mean it’s any less serious, just that you don’t happen to be the target.
Have a happy weekend, Friends.