I…don’t even know where to start. We…lost a lot this week. The Royal We and also the me we. I’m tired, sad, mad, confused, but most importantly actually ready to face whatever is heading my way. Eclipse Season and falling apart season are OVER, lovelies.
Let’s get into these links!
A quick note before…dammit, we lost a good one. But, I feel really strongly that we have to change the way we talk about our heroes. We have to let them be human because to not do so denies their humanity and our own agency.
This will always be my favorite photo of the congressman. Rest in power, sir.
Good reads
- How I Became a Police Abolitionist: When people dismiss abolitionists for not caring about victims or safety, they tend to forget that we are those victims, those survivors of violence.
- “During the fraught, emotional days after the killing of George Floyd, Viola Davis wanted, more than anything, to be out on the streets of Los Angeles, shouting, protesting, holding a sign.“
- This entire situation has turned out to be a MESS.
- How “I’ll Be Gone in the Dark” Romanticizes Addiction and Tragedy.
- I’m finding that anti-racism work and how to dismantle it is applicable to just…everything. I never want to dilute the purpose of that work, but I think everyone could really benefit from applying themselves to the methods of anti-racism in like…every part of their lives. Anyway, here ya go!
- Athleisure, barre and kale: the tyranny of the ideal woman.
- Rather than bathing, early American colonists believed that other practices, like regularly changing their undergarments, qualified as good hygiene.
Wellness
- I had a black dog. (See above, 4m18s well worth your time.)
- How’s everyone sleeping? I started to use this method about a year and a half ago and even through all the turmoil, my sleep has been healthy to the point that my therapist was like, “Well, damn! Okay!”
- “How are you?” It’s a small question and also a massive one, freighted with so much meaning.
- Do emotionally immature people change over time? Eh. You’ve got to acknowledge it and want to change.
- Why men think it’s so cool to dislike popular things.
- How to deal with highly defensive people. Lockdown has everyone on Level 2,000. We’re all working through varying degrees of bewilderment and in our quest to make sense of things we can become extremely defensive. I think this is a good primer for everyone, maybe you’ll find something in here to make conversations less destructive or recognize a bit of unhelpful behavior. The quote below really illustrates how, even with the best of intentions, a highly defensive person is doing harm to themselves and others:
When you commit to an idea, a concept, a belief, or a set of values or ideals, your identity is tied up in that commitment. When someone comes along and says anything against what you’ve committed to, you might take it as an attack on your character; therefore, a threat to your identity. We can get so wrapped up in a commitment to a stance that we become sensitive and close-minded to anyone else’s thoughts or opinions.
Good Listens
- Wooooow this podcast episode (The “One Day” Mindset (w/ Young Bombs) really came to me at the right time. Here’s a written companion piece but really, give yourself and your ears a treat and listen to the episode!
- Managing Trauma, Boundaries, and Breakthroughs during COVID with Gigi Griffis.
- 3 Ways to Sit with Wonder by Danae Smith of This Wondrous Life on How To Get Grounded in Gratitude.
The Best of the Rest
- A world without phones.
- I’m obsessed with this.
- Would you just LOOK at this good girl!!!!
- Miami Heat star Jimmy Butler wants no name or message on the back of his jersey at Disney restart.
- For anyone who’s ever been scared to learn new things.
- The cold, sterile art of Instagram brotography.
- What does a diverse food system look like for Bristol?
- Ugh:
I need you guys to stop. https://t.co/0wsw0r2Mjb
— Bobbi. (@todayimbobbi) July 15, 2020
Okay, bye! Happy Monday!
